Tis the season! For many of us, this time of year is about family, friends, tradition, and spending time with loved ones----but not for everyone! Let’s be honest, while many people look forward to this time of year for the reasons I just explained, not everyone feels the same way. For others who are reminded about the significance of this season and are gearing up for spending time with their family and friends, they may be facing heartburn and stress. For them, this does not necessarily mean spending quality time with loved ones, it means putting up with annoying habits, attitudes and personalities. It means biting your tongue and avoiding arguments and doing your very best to be civil during this time of year.
So how can you make an anticipated stressful time with your family and friends during the holiday season much more memorable? For some of you, the answer may be alcohol. But for others who anticipate getting in arguments, I recommend you do the following to be more civil:
Practicing dialogue instead of engaging in debate is a technique that can be employed in the workplace as well. This is especially useful when dealing with jerks at work. For many of us, our natural response to dealing with conflict is a zero-sum approach and engage in debate. However, dialogue is a more effective option for dealing with a situation in a non-combative or adversarial manner. Additionally, when we engage in dialogue, we learn more about others perspective and helps us become more civil. So, during this holiday season and moving forward into 2019, I encourage you to practice dialogue whenever possible because it will build your personal and professional relationships.
Eric Williamson is a keynote speaker and author of the book How to Work with Jerks. Order your copy today at https://www.amazon.com/dp/0999456695/. For more information about a keynote speech or training workshop for your organization, visit www.tailoredtrainingsolutions.com.
February marks a month of compassion, appreciation, and recognition for many great people and loved ones. Not only do we celebrate Black History month, President’s Day, and Valentine’s Day, we also celebrate random acts of kindness in the workplace. While you may have no desire to have a work jerk be your valentine, you can still celebrate random acts of kindness in your workplace by fostering respect, appreciation, and morale among your fellow colleagues, including jerks.